Thursday, 12 September 2013

Voice of Society



'Dependency' is the single word that ceases the rights of an individual. Being independent is the birth right of a Human and every individual has got rights to utilize it to the fullest whenever they get a chance. In a country like mine, people begin their life with the concept of 'dependency'. They depend on their parents for their basic needs like food, clothing, accessory stuffs and education. But hey, this doesn't stop here. Few people take this on to the next level - selection of bridge or groom. They depend on their parents and let them choose a bride or groom for them. Now let me ask you people a simple question - 'are you lazy enough to pick a bride or groom for yourself?' or 'are you afraid that you have lost the confidence in you to proceed?' Then I thought 'why not get into their point of view and analyze things', and that's when I ended up with an answer from my inner voice which stated, 'they are just afraid of the society'. 

What is a society? According to Google, society means a group of people living together in a community. But to me the society is defined as 'a group of people who stop us from doing what exactly we feel like doing'. Trust me, this might sound 'anti social' to you but the fact always tastes bitter. A coin always has two sides, likewise the society has its two sides - one is they stop us from doing something criminal and the other is they stop us from doing something only for the reason that it appears awkward to them. In this article I'm going to take the latter part and I just want to share my view of 'how to ignore the awkward part and look for the betterment'.

I want to proceed further by taking an example of how the society views a 'Woman'. I'll explain this with a real life incident witnessed by me. When a girl/woman comes up with an idea of doing something productive and when she takes it up to her parents, their reply will be, 'you're a girl. You need not do all these stuffs. Just sit back and relax'. Does this make any sense? Were girls born just to sit and relax? To me, they are first 'Humans' and then they fall into the category of 'Women'. It's just that living in a male dominated society shouldn't put them in a dark zone. They should step in and contribute their part to the fast moving world, else what's the use of their existence? But few girls/women easily land into the 'dependency' loop and they say, 'we can't handle the society. It takes away our rights and we are better living this way. What more can we do than to adjust?' I say, 'stand up and make change. Blaming the society doesn't help you out. Push yourself and hold on tight to your determination'. I'm not saying that every woman existing on this planet fall into the 'loop of dependency'. There are few who stand out different from others but I am talking about the minority who end up in traps. Here the minority doesn't have its power when the majority takes over the control. To achieve this, one needs to set their mind to - 'I don't give a damn about the society'.

We have something called 'Human rights' and not Men's rights or Women's rights, which proves that the rights are equal for both men and women who fall into a single category called 'Humans'. There is no law that states that women cannot or should not do things done by men, for example, driving a metropolitan bus or driving an auto rickshaw. Women are just afraid about the 'voice of society'. They fear that what society labels them when they spot them driving a bus or an auto rickshaw. They fear that the voice of society might sound like, 'she is a lady and she is driving a bus? What's gotten into her? What's the need for her to do so?' Once again, I condemn this by saying, 'when you're not able to do what she does, then you've no rights to make a comment'.

Explaining my view about the society doesn't make me 'anti social'. It's just that I don't take the 'voice of society' in a serious way, except for few sensible things.

18 comments:

  1. The society has always been male-dominated except in certain places where the women chose to be courtesans. But that does not lend any sanctity to patriarchy. Nor does it make matriarchy venal.

    Are women afraid? Are all men potential rapists?

    Why did prostitution flourish right from the beginning of human history?


    Too many questions...


    To which I have no answer.

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    1. I second you on the fact that few women chose to be courtesans and the reason for them to do so remains a mystery!

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  2. Every woman who has yet to free herself could give thanks to you for writing on behalf of their cause. Great article, heart felt and real, Ashwin!

    You are Indian and from a different culture. I am beginning to comprehend that difference only it is not all that different (in attitude and people who would like to control) than many societies. Fact is, man like to control woman because they fear them for the power they have. You are bringing forth Truth. Truth is we are now living in a world where truth will come forth no matter what.
    If one/you were to take note of the world around you you'd fast become aware that their are pioneers are blazing a path of truth as I write these words. New forms of benign consciousness are giving birth to new, uplifting ideology and setting precedence that all of us will one day embrace.

    You, Ashwin, are a part of it. Keep on with your uplifting thoughts and spread them worldwide. Your skills have improved since I last sent you data about clarifying what you write (too many words).

    Inside each and every human's heart is an answer... if we care to pay attention. The man who wrote the comment (the one above) is typical of most all males. He lives in fear of woman, in fear of social norms and therefore cannot go to his heart and render his thoughts that are near and dear to him, uplifting thoughts. He will one day free himself... but only if he so chooses.
    You are we am I





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    1. Hey Frank, thank you for your kind words :)
      and yeah, I totally agree with you on the fact that 'men like to control women because they fear them for the power they have'.

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  3. exactly i thought the very same when I read this article. men suppress women only because they are afraid of their real strength. and that's why by default, women are kind of programmed to live with more dependency than men. i agree with that.. nowadays some break that loop while many others still remain silent. but that doesn't mean we cant stand up to the so-called society, whereas it is our strengths too. In our lifestyle here, I believe whatever way we choose.. its for only one reason - family. and in that case i think dependency doesn't always need to be mentioned as a bad idea.

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    1. dependency isn't a bad idea but it is not acceptable when it is used as a tool to suppress women's rights ..

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      have a great weekend.

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    3. just checked in there and dropped my comment.. :)

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  4. Women in our country lacks a very important need called "RESPECT", which many of them never realize. They are been trained to live without it right from very beginning of their life. In my view, instead of shouting for Women Rights/Women Upliftment, show them some respect and teach the younger generation not to disrespect any individual. By doing so you will see the society grow :)

    A really good article Ashwin.. Keep it up...

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  5. But to add to what you have to say about respect, a woman must on her own learn to love all the aspects she both loves and hates about herself thus she will have respects for who she is. She must learn that in this universe she is precious and that all of creation is divine. All of us are in the process of experiencing how to love all aspects of ourselves and those around us. It's a long haul but in this day and age cultural norms can quickly change for the better.
    I read the article today about the four young men who are sentences to die for the rape and murder of a young woman. This type of crime against woman has been going on on India (worldwide too) but is now being focused on. All of us have something to learn from news such as this. Always it is about mankind's fears and how they control us. There is much to be said, much to write about, much to consider, and there is much understanding to apply. I could go pon but this is my reply # 2. Be at peace

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    1. the situation in my country, India, (maybe even in few other countries) is like 'there is no safety assurance for a woman if she steps out of her house after 9 pm'. Also I have personally came across situations where men over here disrespect women which is totally insane.

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  6. not easy to disentangle the things that have remained tangled so long
    good study
    Fran├žoise

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    1. Well, it might not be easy to disentangle things at the initial stages, but it could be done at one stage..
      Thanks for sharing your comment

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  7. This post has been selected for the Spicy Saturday Picks this week. Thank You for an amazing post! Cheers! Keep Blogging :)

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  8. Quite a nice post, extremely strong points of view put forth in a simple, easy to understand format. We need more people like you to fight gender stereotypes in India today.

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